The party season is upon us and if you are single it’s a great opportunity to meet some hot new people! If the thought of that fills you with dread or your idea of flirting is gazing into your raspberry martini then read on. Following are some top tips to sparkle your way into someone’s life!

1) Make sure you look and feel your best. Sounds obvious enough but when planning what to wear make sure it is something you feel fantastic in! Wear your absolute favourite outfit and if you haven’t got one, go and find one! (See this month’s dress guide) There is nothing more confidence boosting than wearing something you love and know you look good in.

When you are getting ready take your time, pamper yourself! Do some extra exercise that week, eat healthily, get enough sleep all this will contribute to you feeling dazzling on the day.



2) Do not make the party all about meeting someone. A sure fire way to leave the party disappointed is to specifically go there to find a relationship. There is nothing more off putting than a needy person gazing round the room not paying the slightest bit of attention to what their friends are saying on the lookout for someone to pounce on! It’s a common human trait to build up false expectations of how a situation will turn out and then when it doesn’t happen feel all upset about it, even though we have created that all by ourselves!

Take away any pressure and just go to have fun with your friends! People will be more attracted to someone they see across the room having a good time as opposed to someone looking miserable or desperate.

3) Dance! The dance floor is a fantastic place to meet people and be spun around! Don’t wait to be asked just get on there with your buddies and enjoy yourself.

4) Their eyes met across a crowded room... If whilst having all your fun you happen to spot someone you like eye contact is the key to tell if they are interested, if you keep catching eyes then this is a sign there could be some interest. The next step is to smile.... then get back to having your fun! Every now and again glance over, if they are really that interested they will come over eventually. I am all for girl power but the bottom line of it is men like a chase, they like to feel like they hunted and won you over. Men often get bored very easily if there is not much of a challenge, hence why one night stands usually turn out the way they do.....

5) Be feminine. Women usually want a masculine man, someone who has certainty in his life, can make decisions, and be manly, grrrr. And yes you guessed it men are often on the lookout for a women who comes across as feminine, by this I mean a women who is happy in herself, relaxed and not trying to take control of every situation or playing a man’s role. I know this might seem a bit backward and I am not meaning that women are to appear hopeless or weak but men do generally prefer feminine women, just like a lot of women want a manly man!

When we see someone across a room or meet someone for the first time we sub consciously make a decision about them within a matter of seconds. 55% of how we are perceived is through how we are dressed and our body language, 37% is our tone, how we speak and only 7% is what we actually say. So aside from dressing in a feminine way some examples of body language are creating contours in your body line, e.g. putting your weight on one leg so your hip goes to the side, crossing your legs, one hand on hips etc. Another top tip is to put your head to one side showing your neck, for some reason men subconsciously like this! A feminine tone will be to soften your voice and not be too shouty. Remember all of this needs to be natural though, it’s all about relaxing and just being yourself not feeling like you have to put on any fronts.

6) Be interested and interesting! Ok so he’s strapped on a pair and come over to talk to you, what next?! People love to talk about themselves so if you feel afraid of running out of things to talk about ask questions, be interested in him. Be aware though of men who only talk about themselves and never ask anything about you, it could lead to problems down the line. If there is something you find out you have in common share something about this back, this will help build up relatedness. If you feel related to someone its all part of building a connection and helps you to be remembered. Smile and laugh a lot, it’s attractive (in the right places of course, you don’t want to appear a bit manic!).

7) Should I stay or should I go..... Well we are talking about parties here, there will be alcohol involved and if everything has gone well I am sure you will be kissing by now. The question at the end of the night is where to go from here, are one night stands really a good idea? They are called one night stands for a reason; they usually end up that way. When you invest in a house or a car you usually spend time shopping around, checking out their reliability, get structural surveys done and so on so why when you are looking for a relationship is it a good idea to share everything and every part of you after a couple of hours, probably under the influence. Surely it’s wiser to get to know the other person first to find out if they are really someone you want to be with before rushing in. Plus, as I said above, men do like a challenge and if a woman sleeps with them to early I hate to say it but they make judgements and get bored quickly.

Now if you are screaming at this and saying but “I just want to have sex, I am fine with it just being for one night” then go for it, have fun – I am just talking to the people who want to find a relationship or person who feels let down when he doesn’t call afterwards. No matter how much we try not to be upset women connect with men when they sleep with them, they often make having sex mean that there must be feelings between the two of you. For men this is not true, they don’t build that connection so quickly and can quiet happily run around sleeping with people they don’t particularly like or want to see again. So this is just why I am saying to really think about how you will feel after a one night stand if that is what it ends up to be.

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